A Little Advice on Love...

 ...From Someone Who Always Screws it Up

I won't even begin to say I'm good at love.  I've been through a couple few relationships, some good, most bad.  I've seen physical and extreme mental abuse.  I've also been blessed enough to have spent time with some of the best men on this earth- you know who you are

I'm still single, not by choice, but it is what it is, right?  I hate that saying by the way- it is what it is.  Bite me.

I've recently gone through a pretty tough breakup.  I was not the breaker upper, but the breakee uppee.  Like that?  Copywritten...back off.  I thought I was doing everything right, I did love with all my heart, and I thought I had found the one.  Shit went sour, probably 75% my fault.  I tend to push the ones I love away when I'm going through adversity.  That's usually my biggest problem.  Hoping to learn from it. 

So anyways, I'm gonna throw a couple of things that I've learned about love out there for ya'll to learn from.  Mostly because I don't want any of you to make the same mistakes I have.  Remember, I AM NOT A PRO AT LOVE.  Obviously...since I'm on my own.

1. Do not hide your feelings.  Feelings are there for a reason.  Use them. No matter what, you always communicate how you feel, regardless of if you're afraid of the reaction.  If your significant other makes you feel like shit for feeling the way you do, GET OUT NOW!

2. If/when you fall in love, love with everything you have.  Love is the most beautiful gift you can be given.  Let yourself love with your all.  You never know when it can come to a tragic ending.

3. Do not push the one you love away.  This should really be #1 but I'm scatter brained so whatever.  If you're having trouble dealing with something in your life and your significant other lends a helping hand, lean on them and take that hand.  Don't act like you're tough shit.  Your sig. oth. (copywrite) may just have some amazing advice to offer.  Take it.  Don't push it.

4. If you feel like your sig. oth. is trying to change you (in the negative direction), get out.  You need to always be YOU.  You dress, act, look, however it is that YOU want.  Be true to yourself first.  Now on the contrary, if they are trying to change you to be a more positive person, take the damn advice for christ's sake.  It may just make your life that much better.

5. Take the time to tell your sig. oth. that you love them and you're crazy about them and all that.  My most recent relationship was FULL of that.  It may seem lame and highschool-ish, but its a great way to keep eachother smiling and happy...and completely giddy.  I mean who doesnt wanna wake up to a text that says "I love you, Im so lucky to have you, blah blah blah."  Makes ya smile, dont it?

6. PDA is the cutest way to show eachother how you feel.  Take a walk in public, hug, kiss (no sloppy gross makeouts), hold hands, grab eachother's butts (hehe).  If you cant outwardly show how you feel about eachother when youre around others, then you need to check your relationship.

7. Support eachother in everything that you do.  Your sig. oth. likes to play guitar, take pics, lift like a madman, eat 2398743209847 calories a day, and claim to be a doctor, then you support them.  I mean if you wanna laugh at them behind their backs thats totally ok.  But in all seriousness, support them like you want to be supported. 

8. If you're gonna fight, make sure it's about something super important.  Fights and arguments are time that you'll never get back.

9. Play fight constantly.  Whether it's just busting eachother's balls or judo chopping eachother's faces, it makes the relationship a little more fun.  Be the fun couple.

10. Do crazy shit together.  Let's not get too crazy, but you know what I mean.  Those crazy experiences that you have are much more meaningful when shared.

11. Think before you speak.  Dont say things you know you'll regret right away.  Words can be forgiven but they almost always don't go forgotten.  If you're in the middle of some kind of fight, leave eachother's presence for like 10 minutes.  Breathe and think.  Dont say stupid thing that you cant take back.  The one you love may just up and leave.

12.  Dont take the one you love for granted.  They may not always be there, and you know the saying "you dont know what you have until it's gone."  True story.

13. Take it slow.  Life's about the journey, not the destination.  Same goes for love.  Take the time to enjoy EVERY SINGLE moment of the relationship.  Let yourself feel the amazing happiness that is love.  Dont rush.  Get to know eachother fully. 

14. Love is about seeing an imperfect person perfectly.  Your sig. oth. has some quirks?  Learn to love those quirks.  Your sig. oth. may think they've got A, B, and C wrong with them.  In your eyes, that A, B, and C shouldnt even be noticeable.  You should see them as perfect.

15. Trust and be trustworthy.  Nuff said.

16. Don't be afraid to open your heart.  You may want to remain guarded and armored and blah blah blah, but when you find that right person, it'll take them 1.334 seconds to knock that wall right down.  You'll know when it's right.


OKAY KIDDIES!  Those are the best things I can come up with.  In all honesty I have probably screwed all 16 of these up in some way.  Learn from my mistakes please.  I dont want anyone ending up in a shitty place and being bitter about love.  It truly is the best thing in the world.

If you wanna add, throw a few comments at me.